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Mental Illness affects the entire family. |
Posted by: Slkay820 - 01-12-2021, 10:07 PM - Forum: My Request for Help
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I'm not perfect! I thought I was a good mother. I thought I did everything right while my children were growing in middle class suburbia. I went through a nasty divorce and my twin boys suffered. I never realized how much pain they went through. I remarried and now have a blended family with five children ages 26 to 30. 10 years ago I had serious mental health issue and it was hospitalized 10 years ago. It was then I guess that I dropped the ball. I did a lot of harm to my family and never realized it. During a mania, I packed up their bedroom and sold our family home while they were away at college. I moved to a smaller home that didn't have a bedroom for them. I never realized what this did to them emotionally and they was never comfortable coming to my house ever again, it wasn't theirs. Since then, my boys have stuck together like glue, they keep their lives private and don't share much with me. I have had trouble for years connecting with them. Last month I had them over for dinner. My one son sits down, looks at me and starts shouting how much he hates me and he doesn't have a mother. He shouted that he never wants to see me again and stormed out of the house. This came out of the blue. I stood shocked in tears and retreated to the garage. I sat on the concrete step in the cold dark garage shaking and crying uncontrollably. 5 minutes later, my son opened the door and sat down next to me. He put his arm around me, land head on his shoulder and told how sorry he was, that he didn't mean it, that he loved me. We sat in the dark garage holding each other crying as I listened to him tell me that I have to stop using my disease as an excuse, that even though he's grown, he needs me to be a mother to him. He said with tears, "did you know that I tried killing myself!" He said I knew nothing about him and he felt abandoned and left to face the world on his own. He told me that he was afraid he might be suffering from the same mental illness and he was scared. We sat in that cold garage on that December evening holding each other for the first time since he was a child. I couldn't let him go. He told me that he loved me and he was so sorry he said those hurtful words to me, he didn't mean it. I told him that I was so sorry for not being there for him for years because of my mental illness. This time was extremely cathartic. I told him how much I loved him and I promised that I would be present for him. He said that's what he wants and we talked about this being the start of a long journey that will be difficult but we both were going to be there for each other. I promised to be a more present mother and he promised me he would get help for his anger anxiety and depression. This is the Cliff note version of probably the most painful, emotional, eye opening and hopeful moment I've ever felt all at once. My sons and I have a long road ahead of us but we're all committed to trying everyday.
I would like so much like to take my son's on vacation somewhere for three or four days to spend some family time together, just the three of us without their stepfather or the other kids. I want to have normal family time that we haven't had in over a decade while spending private time to have some deep painful discussions in order to heal and start to move forward.
I realize this is not a story of homelessness, poverty or dire straits. Nobody talks about how mental illness affects the entire family. This is a story of starting to face some very painful issues and beginning to put my family back together again.
My sincere gratitude for reading my story. Thank you if you send a contribution.
Stephanie.
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Need to Get Out of this Hole |
Posted by: NR3404 - 01-12-2021, 01:48 PM - Forum: My Request for Help
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Greetings, I am just taking a chance. I am a 35 year old female. I am a full time Special Education teacher and I recently started working part time on weekends at a group home. I am also working towards starting my side tutoring business (possible focus is adults preparing for GED/ Adults with disabilities) and working on an Ear Training class (Music Theory) I honestly mismanaged my funds and now I am trying to get myself out of the hole I created. I am behind on monthly bills and I am always in the negative. My plan is to come up with a budget and become financially literate but it's hard to do that when I am playing catch up. I have debt as well but I believe I can negotiate and consolidate those bills. Anything will help. ($3000 will help me catch up on my monthly bills) Thank you in advance. And if not, thank you for your time.
PayPal: paypal.me/nreid304
CashApp: MajChordz2
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Need Money |
Posted by: mshiloh986 - 01-12-2021, 04:35 AM - Forum: My Request for Help
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Hi, My name is Shiloh and I am in desperate need for money. I am willing to chat privately with you. I do not need a lot of money $20 would be enough.
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Horrible purchase ruined small Irish home business |
Posted by: Serena - 01-11-2021, 03:03 PM - Forum: My Request for Help
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Long title I know - to cut a long story short I purchased a laser engraver from a website on Black Friday to start up a small home business - fast forward to last week when it arrived and was faulty.
After a long process with the supplier, I can’t even return the item and the supplier isn’t playing ball with me. Basically I’ve lost my money.
I need €500 to buy another machine and am intending to get a better branded one this time.
Then I can finally start rolling out my ideas - if anyone contributes I will be thrilled and also will be happy to mail you a gift made by me with the machine!
Thanks to everyone who has read this far!
Kind regards and as we say here in Ireland
Mise le meas (kind regards)
PayPal - serenaglynn@yahoo.com
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Left in debt by cheating fiancé |
Posted by: sd123947 - 01-11-2021, 11:26 AM - Forum: My Request for Help
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So I wouldn't normally do anything like this but as everyone knows, times are extremely tough.
I was in a long term relationship with my ex fiance, we were planning our wedding and took out a loan to sort our short term debt as well as set us up for wedding bills. They did not have the best credit score and not working so it was all in my name as were every credit contract (sofa, tv, credit card ect).
7 months before the date of the wedding I found out that she was sleeping with another guy. This broke me, not only the cheating aspect but the fact that it was a boy she cheated with when we were in a same sex couple.
Moving on from then, I was manipulated to let her and her friend have the flat that was under both our names. I wasn't aware she took her name off the property until I handed my keys back, which resulted in her and her friend leaving rent arrears, council tax arrears and utility bill arrears.
I was left broken emotionally and financially.
This all happened between Dec 19 / Mar 20.
Since then I have struggled but managed to clear the council tax and utility arrears and almost cleared the rent arrears but when it comes to the credit side, I'm struggling soo much to the point it is affecting my mental health (I have support from the doctor).
I have also had advice that because it was my name, I have no right to ask her to make any payment to anything.
At the age of 26 and left with over 14000 worth of debt because I didn't realize I was being finically abused, I need a fresh start and help doing so.
If and only if you can, please help me get my life back paypal.me/sd123947
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You can literally save my life |
Posted by: Kayden R - 01-10-2021, 08:25 PM - Forum: My Request for Help
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Hello there.
To the start, I think that I must confess to you, dear reader of this beg, that I made very dumb things and I understand it 100%.
I had some psychological problems, that interrupt my ability to work for some time. So I made those dumb things and go to take money from some micro-credits organizations. I thought that this is temporary and soon I'll be ready to work and I'll give my money back. But then happened pandemic of the COVID-19 and I lost the job.
For now, I finally found a new job and work 24/7, but even with these terms, I have no ability to repay a credit for now. Now creditors terrorizing me and my family. We always now in psychological stress, because of me...
Debt is more than $2000 for now. It's a very big sum for my country, and I tried to pay this, but for pity, I can't close all the debt alone.
Nobody can help me. I don't know what to do and how to live further. New Year came and I have no hopes for the future...
You really can save my life now.
Please, help. I will be forever appreciative of every donation, no matter how much.
Thank you for your attention. Have a good day and, please, never take money in micro-credits organizations.
My email for contact: kayden.r.stevens@gmail.com
(please don't write to me, if you need any fee for money send, I don't have money, so I can't give you anything)
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